Rosanna Machado | February 8, 2022
I remember once wanting to let something go at work because it would cause more work for everyone and thinking to myself that I wish I didn’t care so much. That really wasn’t true. My values are what guide me each day and make me who I am. I love Susan David’s quote “Your core values provide the compass that keeps you moving in the right direction”.
Whilst we all have values, we don’t always consciously know what they are or understand the impact that they are having on our behaviour. Often difficult situations or emotions are due to something clashing with our own values and the more we understand that, the more we can choose how respond to the situation. My lightbulb moment of realising my stress about being late was due to it feeling disrespectful means I understand why I am experiencing those emotions and I can work out how I can react and ensure that respect is still front of mind.
In certain work situations, there may be a clash of values and understanding this can help to unlock what’s going on. As a manager, communicating what’s important to you from those that work for you can help to move the team in the same direction. You may even find that there are clashes between your own values.
I’m not going to claim your values won’t be challenged, however to feel listened to and part of the conversation may go a long way to helping you resolve the situation.
How can you identify your values?
- What’s important to you?
- What do you want to stand for in life?
- How do you want to treat others?
- What behaviour do you not like seeing in yourself or others? The opposite may well be a value that is important to you.
How can you live by your values?
- Think about what your values mean for how you’d like to live your life
- Notice situations where your values are being compromised
- Ask others what’s important to them to build empathy
- Use your values to anchor yourself when you choose how to respond to difficult emotions
If we want to live a fulfilled life, a greater awareness of our values and how we can live by them will keep us moving in the right direction, perhaps with a few bumps along the way.