Take on me

Rosanna Machado | April 19, 2022

“Friendship isn’t only what you can give, it’s what you’re able to receive” This quote from Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant really struck a chord with me as I have had a tough few weeks after unexpectedly losing my Mum in March.

Whilst I know I am only on the start of the journey of grief and don’t pretend to know the answers, I have discovered that out of great loss comes incredible moments of love and light. I have been overwhelmed by the kindness from good friends to street cleaners to my fellow swimmers. I have learnt that in these challenging times, it’s important to take what you need from others and stop worrying about whether you are giving back enough or even anything. The important people in your life are there to support you unconditionally.

So how do we continue to build our resilience in difficult times. I have learnt to:

  • Take all the support that is on offer and not be afraid to ask for help. Vulnerability is a sign of great strength and self-awareness
  • Keep people close
  • Find an outlet for what you are experiencing – it could be journaling, talking to friends or a creative outlet
  • Look for nourishment – it will be no surprise to you that I have swum even more than usual. Swimming has given me a morning ritual, a place of solace and a supportive community
  • Celebrate the wonderful memories. Every day I discover how much I have inherited from my Mum from talking to anyone to some of my core values
  • Be thankful for what you have each day
  • Look up and find the joy and laughter
  • Be kind to yourself and non-judgemental about the emotions that you are feeling

Dealing with life’s challenges is a different journey for each of us. The more we open ourselves up and accept what we are feeling, the more we can and find ways to grow, thrive and find moments of joy.