Walking into your fears

Rosanna Machado | May 10, 2022

I know when I am worried about something as it invariably starts with butterflies in my stomach. For years, I used to push this away thinking I’ll project my happy self, and everything will be ok.

In recent years I have become a great advocate of emotional agility and embracing all emotions as data. And we may not always remember this, but we do have a choice about how we react to our emotions. There is a wonderful quote from Viktor Frankl, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.”

When emotions are difficult, we may suppress our emotions, trying to avoid an emotional outburst – not only does this disrupt our breathing but it is also proven that those emotions then manifest themselves more strongly within us.

In fact, if we can embrace the emotion, allow it to flow, process what it is trying to tell us, we can learn and grow. There is so much in our life that we cannot control and when we realise this and choose our reactions, we can live with more awareness and freedom. I like to think of difficult emotions as a sign that I care about something and it is a case of using that and channelling it in a helpful way.

So next time you feel a difficult emotion coming on:

  • Pause and take a breath
  • Sit and observe your emotions without judgement, without reaction
  • Think about what that emotion is trying to tell you
  • Understand what strategies may help you in that situation
  • Stick to your self-care routine even more when you are facing difficult emotions
  • Actively choose your response
  • Be conscious of your breathing

Embracing all our emotions can seem tough yet by understanding ourselves fully we can learn and grow and live a more fulfilled life.