What’s your story for 2020?

Rosanna Machado | December 17, 2019

My 2019 started with a new year’s resolution to see more live music. A more joyful resolution than others. It has been a journey of discovery, everything from folk to classical to surfer rock and certainly very good for the soul.

It then turned into a year of self-discovery and self-care. I have learnt over the years that I’m great at looking after others but haven’t always taken care of myself. However self-care has now become an important part of my regime.

2019 also became the year I decided to re-write my story. My story since school has been ‘I’m rubbish at all sport’ It has defined me for over 40 years, and I wanted to change that. I read somewhere that you should re-write your story as often as you re-write your CV – I love that as we are so often defined by our stories and unless we re-write them, we cannot grow and develop. I didn’t want to be rubbish at sport; I’ve been envious of those people who can go to the park with a group of friends for a game of rounders – the very thought fills me with dread! I decided to confront it, step into my discomfort zone. I set foot in a gym for the first time in my life and I also took up playing darts and competed in a tournament in Torremolinos after playing for just 4 weeks.

I learnt that it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be, I shouldn’t be so hard on myself and most people are too self-absorbed to worry about whether I’m good or not at the activity in question!

So when it comes to writing your resolutions for 2020, why not make it something that will last:

  • What do you want your story to be?
  • Find something that you want to do rather than something you have to do – if it’s in line with your values, then it is more likely to be successful
  • Think about what you want to get out of each activity – learning something new, meeting people, relaxation
  • Be curious
  • Don’t worry about what others think
  • Be more conscious about how you spend your time. It has become a badge of honour to say we are busy, yet the average adult finds time to spend 3 hours 15 minutes a day on their phone so you can make time for the important stuff
  • Be flexible to work around your other commitments
  • Find pockets of time within your day that could be used for a hobby – I always arrive at meetings 15 minutes early so that time could be used for reading rather than the default option of getting the phone out.

How we spend our time outside work is important for well-being and happiness, so pick the right story for you in 2020.